THE PULL | Book Four

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Relationships & their Spiritual Significance

“When we find another soul, we are finding another particle of God. When we reveal our soul, we reveal a particle of God. We give something divine to each other.”

Relationships are the most beautiful, challenging and growth-producing venture there is. When we lean into them, they can become the doorway through which we come to know ourselves and another soul—and ultimately God—a little better. Yet even though we all feel that pull to connect, we shy away.

Now, supported by these wise teachings, we can learn to follow our heart and get the most out of our relationships, stepping more fully into life. The Pull addresses age-old tensions between men and women, between pleasure and frustration, and between sexuality and spirituality.

Once we liberate ourselves by learning to understand ourselves better, we’ll intuitively find the right people to share ourselves with in the right way.

The Gateway Prayer

Through the gateway of feeling your weakness lies your strength;

Through the gateway of feeling your pain lies your pleasure and joy;

Through the gateway of feeling your fear lies your security and safety;

Through the gateway of feeling your loneliness lies your capacity to have
fulfillment, love and companionship;

Through the gateway of feeling your hate lies your capacity to love;

Through the gateway of feeling your hopelessness lies true and justified hope;

Through the gateway of accepting the lacks of your childhood
lies your fulfillment now.

– Pathwork® Lecture #190


For Essential Subscribers

Listen to Podcasts for The Pull



1 The Cosmic Pull Toward Union

In a Nutshell

2 The Counter-Pull: Frustration

In a Nutshell

3 The Importance of How we Communicate

In a Nutshell

4 The Spiritual Significance of Human Relationship

In a Nutshell


5 Pleasure: The Full Pulsation Life

6 The Forces of Love, Eros and Sex

7 The Spiritual Symbolism and Significance of Sexuality


8 Mutuality: A Cosmic Principle and Law

9 A Venture in Mutuality: Changing our Negative Will

10 Affecting and Being Affected


11 Man and Woman

12 Self-Fulfillment Through Self-Realization as a Man or a Woman

13 The New Man and the New Woman

14 The Evolution and Spiritual Meaning of Marriage


15 Aspects of the Anatomy of Love: Self-Love, Structure, Freedom

16 Life is Relationship

17 Relating: Sadness versus Depression

18 Three Aspects that Prevent Loving

19 Love: Not a Commandment


* The order for reading these teachings is flexible. Follow your intuition and go where you feel called. If you get stuck on a teaching, move on. Sticking points may indicate something important to explore more deeply, but don’t let a speed bump derail you.


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