Is God a “Him” or a “Her”?

With fairly few exceptions, we in the Western world tend to refer to God as a “him”. This is partly due to the Santa Claus Effect where we confuse God with that other white-bearded old man in the sky. And it’s partly a holdover from the by-now-archaic convention of using masculine pronouns in writing—he, him, his—when referring to a person generically.

But it’s also more than that. For here in the West, we have primarily seen the masculine face of God. This is the active half of the creative process, the “make it happen” side, and we can find this “just do it” approach everywhere we look. But this is a very limited perspective. For if the active side is all we see, we’re only getting half the story.

Here in the West, we have primarily seen the masculine face of God.

Fact is, in order for anything to be created, the feminine side must also be present. This is the receptive “let it happen” attitude that gets out of the way and allows. This is the side of God people in the East have mostly seen, which helps explain their more contemplative sit-on-a-cushion approach to all things spiritual.

If we look closely, we will discover that in a broad sense, everything contains these two principles: the masculine and feminine, the active and receptive, the discipline and letting go, the motion and relaxation. They complement one another and coexist in all parts of life.

So while God is somehow the embodiment of masculine traits, it’s not quite right to call God a “him”. Afterall, God is many things, but surely not a person. By the same token, God is the picture of femininity in all its finest characteristics, but that does not make God a “her.” How then are we to think of God?

The Guide tells us we are getting closest to understanding God when we’re completely at a loss to comprehend God. When we haven’t the foggiest notion of who or what God is, there, that’s it! Score! But how to put that into words?

Perhaps we can best identify God as the force that enlivens life. God is in the very fabric of our existence, the structure that frames this world. Indeed, God can be found in the spiritual laws that operate like a complex network of bumpers that keep our wandering souls within bounds and guide us in the direction of the ultimate goal.

God can be found in the spiritual laws that operate like a complex network of bumpers that keep our wandering souls within bounds and guide us in the direction of the ultimate goal.

Throughout the Pathwork lectures, the Guide often referenced spiritual laws. These are not the same as the Ten Commandments, and they are also not rules. Rules are something the ego leans on so it can avoid letting go. Rules are often helpful for creating harmony but they sometimes keep the ego from learning to trust and align with the divine self—that deepest part of ourselves that is, in fact, an aspect of God.

By contrast, spiritual laws are the framework by which our plane of existence operates. They are nonnegotiable, but since we have free will, we are able to break them. Problem is, when we do, the Law of Cause and Effect kicks in, meaning we will feel the hurt that results from going against the grain. This hurt isn’t a punishment per se, but a motivator to think again about the choices we are making.

In this way, Spiritual Laws help us find the way to cross the finish line. They are God’s loving hand helping all us wayward children learn to choose the light. These are the laws we need to understand and follow. For when we don’t, the consequences are unpleasant. But never lose sight of this truth: the choice for how to proceed is always ours to make.

The better question to ask then isn’t who or what is God, but rather how and why have I gone against God’s spiritual laws? Fortunately, this is a question we can answer. To do so, we can look to the many teachings the Guide has given us that reveal the nature of the human spirit and advise us on how to carry the ball all the way home.

—Jill Loree

 

Spiritual Laws: Hard & Fast Logic for Forging Ahead is a short compilation of many of the Guide’s references to spiritual laws. It doesn’t claim to be comprehensive for, as the Guide often said, there are an infinite number of spiritual laws. But it does offer an overview of many important laws we would be wise to know of and heed. Read the list of key Spiritual Laws.

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