P1 It means letting go of fears, distrust, misconceptions, and suspicion. But it also means letting go of the insistent attitude that says, in effect, “I can be happy only if so and so does thus and thus, or if life responds exactly as I determine.” To “let God” from the centre of your being, from your heart where God speaks if you wish to listen—that is truly the ultimate aim.
It is usually so much easier to comprehend a spiritual premise in general terms than in its everyday applications. Many people attempt to bring about the fulfillment they desire with their self-will. To tell these people that they must let go of their forcing current seems to imply resignation to emptiness, suffering, pain, and unfulfilled longing.
P2 Self-will, anxiety, insistence, forcing currents and distrust create an energetic climate that prohibits the divine flow. Inwardly, however, people do rebel against the momentary uncertainty of stepping into an apparent vacuum created after they have given up their tight self-will and have begun to let go. The tight holding, the not letting go, always points to the inner, spiritual struggle about what to trust: the little ego or God within.
Whatever the interim state, you must embrace it so that it can be explored, understood, and thus dissolved. There is an enormous difference between believing that this temporary state is the final reality which must be kept at bay, and knowing that it is a temporary condition.
P3 You prefer the status quo in which you avoid falling into those other states of consciousness of your creation. It is a decision and commitment that must be repeated many, many times. The giving up of the tight self-will implies first of all letting go of the insistence of your wish. The wish must be let loose for the moment, which is quite different from giving it up forever. The “who, where, what, when, and how” of the wish fulfillment must be temporarily given up.
Since your mind is often incapable of even conceiving the richness of the universe, you must learn to make yourself empty at the moment and allow the divine process to reveal itself to you. This means “letting God.” If you send out currents of domination over others with whom you are involved in relationships, if you fight against their imperfections and immaturities that hurt you, it is only because you do not trust that your inner God can produce fulfillment for you without having to impose your ideas over others.
P4 Whoever is outwardly dominant will find it difficult to deal with the inner hopelessness. Whoever is outwardly negative, dependent, weak, and submissive will find it difficult to deal with his or her covert, dominant, and manipulative traits. They are inevitably two sides of the same coin.
P5 If you can confront your doubts that the best could indeed be yours, then you can establish trust. If all the energy you now use to coerce and bend your environment would be used to establish genuine faith in the abundance of life, in the richness your life could have, you would indeed create such a rich life. Feel the inner movement in you when you cease grabbing, and then visualize yourself in a confident, patient, humble state of mind in which the universe can give you its best.
Abundance constantly floats around you, but your clogged energy system erects a wall that closes you off from the ever-present abundance. The same principle applies to all other kinds of relationships: to wanting a specific job, wanting friends, wanting people who will buy what you have to sell, who will receive what you have to give, or who give you what you look for.
P6 Letting go can be equated with knowing one’s ultimate riches and having the willingness to establish this fact in your consciousness. As you know, thoughts and energies constantly create. In order to trust, you must first establish certain intermediate links, which cannot be skipped. Those links form the bridge to a state of genuinely positive expectation of life, where there is no pressure, no anxiety, and no doubt. Instead there is the deep faith that the universe is benign and that you can have the very best on all levels of existence.
The open energy system which creates richness flowing into you both from within and without must come from your own richness that can afford to lose at the moment. Then you can afford to tolerate the temporary pain of finding what really obstructs the fulfillment of the unfulfilled need. This is the way to create richness from poverty. A sequence of steps must be undertaken in this process. Step number one: recognize the conflict we have just discussed where you struggle between resorting to hopelessness or to pushing, holding, and applying pressure from above.
Step number two: see that this conflict exists because you operate from the premise of an imaginary poverty, convinced that you could not have what you need if you gave up the pushing, holding, pressuring struggle. Step number three: commit yourself totally to working out the real reasons for your unfulfillment in the usual way you learn on this path. This must be done in a spirit of honesty, perseverance, patience, and humility.
Humility means not blaming the universe for your poverty in a particular area of your life, but instead searching for your distortions that have created this poverty. The free, loving attitude characteristic of an open energy system says, “I would be happy to have your love. But, loving you, I shall give you the freedom to come to me if and when you so choose. If you do not wish to love me, I have no right to make you feel guilty by pretending that this devastates me.” This is the true honesty, decency, and integrity that creates richness.
P8 An attitude of unfairness and dishonesty is always present when you grab and do not “let go and let God.” You may have to first let go of what you want from a specific person and accept the momentary apparent state of impoverishment and emptiness. Travel through this interim state until you can find through your own increasing inner health, freedom, and richness that love is given to you freely. Since the inner world of true interaction cannot be deceived, you must reap what exists in you according to your belief.
When you deny this process and choose instead to feel victimized by life because of the pain you yourself have created out of ignorance, dishonesty, and negativity, you cannot help but stay poor. Out of that courage of really seeing yourself, the further attitude of letting go inevitably grows. This attitude says, “If others want what I have to offer, I will gladly give it to them. If they do not want it, I will let them go. If this is painful, I will accept this pain and explore its origin in me. I will trust in the ultimate benign nature of life to give me what I need, even if at the moment I am still not capable of experiencing it.”
When you undertake these steps, release first the holding and then let go of what you acquired through this forcing attitude of self-will and pressure. This means you may not immediately obtain from the outside what you desire. You must first create the inner attitude in which you can accept the not having with good grace and still feel, perhaps even because of it, your inner wealth. First you must establish the inner state in which you can let go of what you want to have, even if this leaves you feeling empty, pained, and needy.
Difference between guilt, shame and remorse: When you feel guilt, you say, in effect, “I am beyond redemption. I deserve to be devastated.” Since you are an integral part of Creation, of the universe, of God, you thus insult yourself as you do when you do not trust life’s abundance, goodness, safety, justice, richness, and beauty. Never think that this is all of you. Shame is the emotion concerned with vanity and appearance. Perhaps you are ashamed to expose something in front of others because you want to pretend to be other than what you are. The idealized ego-image takes predominance over what is real. True remorse has nothing to do with either guilt or shame. It simply recognizes your shortcomings, limitations, faults, impurities, and negativities.
—The Pathwork® Guide