P1 You know that the remedy is not to push these feelings aside as though they did not exist, but rather to take them out into the open and ask God, ask Christ, to show you where the root is in yourself, where you have built the wall that stands between you and the blessing forces. If you are angry at your brother or sister, try to understand both yourself and the other. Do not be more severe with the other than you are with yourself. You cannot make progress by forcing yourself not to feel disharmony, but you can go to the roots of your conflicts within yourself.
P2 When you see a beautiful landscape, or something else that looks beautiful, it may be wonderful to behold, but it has nothing to do with you personally, with your own state of mind, with your own inner peace and harmony. But when they (the spirits) see beauty, they realize that this is a world, a state of being, that can be theirs if they live according to these teachings. My dear friends, Jesus Christ died on the cross in full knowledge of his freely chosen fate.
His life and death occurred according to his will and desire. It was not fate that overtook him, as happens to human beings where an event is a matter of karma, a consequence of cause and effect. Objectivity means truth. Subjectivity means colored truth, half-truth at best, complete untruth in many cases. As you do the purification work, you will first find the untruth that exists in the depths of your soul. After the untruth is ousted, you will be able to plant truth within yourself.
P3 Yet, you are in half-truth when you judge others and fail to see where you also deviate from what is right and good in a similar way. Furthermore, the fault of the other may coexist with good qualities you yourself do not possess. So, my dear friends, whenever you resent their faults, please ask yourself: “Don’t I, perhaps in a different way, have a similar fault? And doesn’t the person whom I judge so harshly have some good qualities that I lack?” Then think of the good qualities the other possesses and you lack.
Remember also to ask yourself whether you do not have faults that the person you judge and resent does not have. Whenever you are upset about another person’s faults, there must be something in you that is not right either. For it is your own unhealthy grain of untruth that robs you of peace and never the mountain of wrong in the other person! Many human beings are very severe with those who make them feel unloved and criticized, or at least insecure. But most of you are still so insecure that you resort to such defective defensive measures.
This behavior falls into the same category as blindly idealizing the person in whose love you feel secure. You try to convince yourself that you are tolerant and good when you close your eyes to the faults of those you love because they love you. One is pride: the one you have chosen as your loved one and the one who has chosen you as the loved one must not have faults which you do not consider acceptable. The second reason is that deep down in your heart you are so insecure about your own ability to love that you need an idealized version of the loved person.
P4 Pride, and your present inability to truly love, make you go from one extreme to the other. Either you refuse to see the person who is close and dear to you as he or she truly is, or else you judge too harshly, even though the criticism in itself may be justified. When a child discovers that an adored parent has faults and is not omnipotent, it either turns away from the parent and begins to hate and resent, feels let down and disappointed, or else hides the discovery in the unconscious, feeling guilty about having found something unworthy in the parent. These reactions continue to live in the soul of the adult and color his or her reactions and behavior patterns throughout life or until they have been reviewed and reevaluated in the light of mature judgment and reality.
P5 You are so scared to approach the truth because the emotion of the child, for whom seeing an unpleasant truth in the beloved person is unbearable, still lives within you, and this emotion forces you to withdraw your love. If you cannot see without anger, you need to realize that this reaction stems from the same origin as the other extreme, namely, that you cannot accept imperfection and are thus, emotionally, still a child. For the thought is a form, just as much as the spoken word.
P6 You can rationalize and cover up your feelings with many explanations. What is shyness anyway? What is an inferiority complex for that matter? It is nothing else but a form of pride. For he who is so afraid of how he will appear to others, he who is so much concerned with the impression he makes is proud, or, if you prefer, vain. Shyness is one manifestation of an inferiority complex. Brashness is another.
All inferiority complexes have the common denominator of pride and self-will. Self-will: because you crave the gratification of your pride so much that you either act more secure than you feel, thus being untrue to yourself, or else it is the strength of your self-will that paralyzes you and makes you shy. And where pride and self-will exist, fear too must exist. You are unconsciously afraid that others will see that you are not what your outward actions pretend. You fear that your pride and self-will would not be gratified. An inferiority complex is not determined by one’s actual worth and value. It exists solely because one wants to be more than one is.
P7 The group soul is to be understood in the sense that an animal is a particle of a whole soul, just as a human being is one half of a complete spirit. The other half, what is called a “double,” may or may not be incarnated. With animals the split goes further. One entire being consists of many particles which are incarnated in different forms of existence. The lower the development, the further goes the split. As these separated particles develop, they unite and form a whole.
—The Pathwork® Guide