P2 Compulsive overactivity as well as laziness and apathy stem from an identical root. You will find in the overactive person a nostalgic desire to do nothing.
P3 Before you can feel it, you will first become utterly aware of a falseness, no matter how subtle; a pretence not only of how you wish to appear in the eyes of others, but your whole mode of approaching life. To begin with, you have to see that the pretence exists; that you seek to gain something particular through the pretense. And then you have to be willing to give up what you want to gain through pretence if you cannot have it solely on merit.
A new strength will come into you with the ability to relinquish; a new force and security will grow in you. You will begin to experience yourself for the first time as being no longer helpless. Whenever you find an issue that bothers you, determine whether or not you feel helpless. If you do, you now know from all that has been said on the subject that here lies a nucleus of self-alienation, inability to relinquish, pretence that does not work in this instance. There is some subtle pretence in every single person. Everyone has pseudo-solutions and an idealized self-image. Both are based on a form of pretence. Define this pretence clearly, and you have found a major key to your real self. Rationalizing is also a pretence.
QUESTION: In the form of a motivation? ANSWER: Yes. And in the form of using a truth and shifting the real issue to another point.
P5 Try to observe your feelings and see what they really say. Translate your emotions. This is always the very best homework. Many people have the wrong concept of maturity because they believe if they were mature, they would always be certain. That, of course, is not true, for life is not always secure and certain. The mature person will accept life’s uncertainty and cope with it. The immature person will not.
“Why do I feel this way? Why do I want what I want? What productive effect does it have on others and on myself? What unproductive or even destructive effect does it have on others and myself? If it is not genuine, what are the destructive effects?” Ask yourself the motivations of this ideal picture, which might very well be your idealized self-image.
—The Pathwork® Guide