Where God is in Women and Wars
A few years ago, my husband and I began taking bites out of the elephant-sized task of learning a second language, Portuguese. I mention this because a lot of people are shaking on the inside these days. And one of the Portuguese words that means “to shake” is “balançar,” which also means “to balance.”
Indeed, there is a connection between the inner shaking that’s going on and our need to find a new balance—within ourselves, in our lives, and in the world.
How do We End War?
Like a wind chime flailing in a stiff breeze, our inner parts have become twisted and tangled. So our lives and our world are not hanging straight. Our work, then, is to unwind our inner knots and restore ourselves to a free-flowing, well-balanced state. For that’s the only way to straighten out all the outer struggles going on in our world.
We do this by looking at our lower nature with self-honesty. We bring into consciousness our warring inner factions, where one part of us goes one way and another goes in the opposite direction. For it is the out-picturing of our unrecognized hatred, our unrecognized selfishness and our unrecognized lack of love that creates war on Earth.
In short, when we finish the wars that are raging inside each one of us, we’ll stop the energetic outpouring of warfare. When we restore inner balance, then wars will stops. And not before then.
QUESTION: How can it be that there is a God—that there is indeed some kind of divine order—and yet so many terrible things are happening on Earth?
ANSWER from the Pathwork Guide: You have all learned that humans create their own destiny. And that the reason you must carry such heavy burdens is because you have broken spiritual laws, even though you’ve done so unconsciously. But that’s not really sufficient for explaining the occurrence of wars, where a few people make decisions that cause many seemingly innocent people to suffer a heavy fate.
First, it’s important to understand that even in a mass disaster, a person will never go through anything that doesn’t fit into their own destiny. Second, each of us who has some kind of war going on inside shares responsibility for wars and other mass disasters.
So it’s not just politicians or those who are publicly shaping our world’s history that are responsible for wars. But every single person who has impure feelings and thoughts helps pollute the cosmic reservoir. And eventually, this has to have an effect.
So every thought we harbor of hate and separation, or of discrimination and wanting more for ourselves than for others, adds another block to the enormous spiritual structure that is war. In other words, every thought that is not aligned with the spiritual laws of God contributes to the formation of a spiritual structure. And that then manifests as destruction in our material world.
If, on the other hand, a small part of humanity began sowing the seeds of peace, wars would no longer exist. Despite immoral and unethical politicians.
Whenever we are harboring anxiety and hateful thoughts, mistrusting others and wanting to put up walls of separation, we are violating the law of brotherhood. And these kinds of thoughts, together with divisive emotions, contribute significantly to the outbreak of war.
It’s by purifying ourselves on the inside that we fulfill our destiny—wherever we are placed—and become a carrier of peace. By doing our spiritual work we cleanse our emotions and clean up our thoughts. And this indirect effort does more for war—either for it or against it—than any politician ever could.
On Finding God
The other day, I came across the Portuguese word “deusa,” and it dawned on me that the Portuguese word for God, which is “Deus,” is completely masculine. I confess I had a moment of feeling judgmental about the patriarchy in Brazil, which seems a match for using a masculine word to describe the creator of all that is.
But I must also confess it took several days to dawn on me that we have the exact same thing in English. To me, the word “God” seems so “normal,” I didn’t realize that this word is really quite sexist. That said, I’ve never been a fan of swapping out Goddess for God. It just doesn’t feel right to me. Although it’s surely no less wrong. These days, I prefer the word “Creator.”
As I shared in my memoir, Walker, my fight to make peace with being a female has been a life-long battle. It has attracted life experiences to me that have made being female seem like the short end of the stick. But this has been my task, to find the balance between my feminine side and my masculine side. Between letting things happen and making things happen. Between allowing and persevering.
My goal has been to truly know my own worth without feeling that being a woman is a natural disadvantage. It has taken quite a bit of shaking to find this balance.
Along the way, I have come to understand that it makes no real difference what word we use for God. What’s important is that we have a sense that we can trust God.
In a Q&A with the Pathwork Guide on the topic of God, the Guide advised how to go about having a genuine experience of God. He said that if we don’t trust and believe in ourselves, we can’t trust and believe in God. For it’s only to the degree that we trust and believe in ourselves that we can do the same with others, and also with God.
Where Should We Search for God
The Pathwork Guide’s advised us not look for God inside of temples or churches.* He said we also shouldn’t search for God in books or in teachings or in knowledge. So where should we be searching for God? Inside ourselves. For when we search within, God reveals God’s self to us. Because God is in us.
Qualities such as love, truth, trust and faith all exist inside us. So that’s where we must search to find them. As such, there is no outer knowledge that will give us a genuine experience of God. And if it did, we wouldn’t even accept it. Or if we did accept it, it would be for the wrong reasons.
Our work, then, is to learn to trust ourselves. And by following this spiritual path, we will eventually do just that. Once we have found a healthy trust in ourselves, we’ll have all that we need to find God.
Sometimes people cling to God because they don’t trust themselves. But this kind of faith is built on sand. In other words, this is not a solid approach. It’s essentially a false religion built on obedience and fear. And it is very destructive. For it reinforces weakness instead of creating strength.
So it’s best to avoid this kind of approach, whether it’s found in a well-known religious denomination or in a person not affiliated with any religion. Wherever it shows up, it’s like a poisonous weed that’s subtle and pervasive.
Finding a Healthy Approach to God
The Pathwork Guide later went on to say that before we can have a true God-experience, we must learn to stand on our own two feet. For that to happen, it might be best for us to stop searching for God for a while. If we’re not certain, don’t say “there is a God.” But at the same time, if we’re feeling hopeless and confused about life, don’t declare “there is no God.”
It would be more healthy to say, “I don’t know yet,” without any defiance or guilt. As we come to know ourselves—and this spiritual Path always starts like this—we will find our real self. Our true self. And then the rest will be given to us. It will come all by itself.
For it’s a natural understanding that unfolds when we find ourselves and learn what we need to know to live a fulfilling life. We won’t find God by discussing theories on an intellectual level. We must do our personal healing work.
So for now, it’s OK to keep ourselves open but shelve the problem of finding God. What’s important is that we find ourselves first. That’s what truly matters.
“I leave you all with the message that you please trust in the goodness of life and in your own goodness at the bottom of your heart. Bank on it. Pray for it. It is there. It is there. Focus on it, without overlooking the negative. Look at the negative and recognize it as a temporary, unreal, partial state. Take responsibility for it.
See it squarely, but never lose sight that that part in you that is capable of this self-confrontation and honesty and openness and exposure—that part that is capable to choose the proper attitude—is the God that is eternal. It is so near. It is your choice—the choice in which way you direct your thinking.
Do you direct your thinking into an abysmal hopelessness and self-defeat because you are imperfect? Or do you direct your thinking into acknowledging your divine nature, even though there are imperfect parts in you? They’re only parts.
Know your beauty. Know your eternal greatness. You are God.”Pathwork Guide, Q&A #213
*Note, it’s fine to go to temple and to church. Just be sure to go with God.
P.S. Prior to a trip to Brazil in Spring of 2019, Scott and I were taking weekly Portuguese lessons for nearly four months. In one exercise, our teacher asked us to spell out Portuguese words to each other, using the proper Portuguese pronunciation for the letters.
The day before, I had stopped by Scott’s office to pick him up to go skiing. But the front parking lot had been completely full. I saw a sign that said Additional Parking in Rear of Building, so I texted Scott where to find me.
Since we had just learned the Portuguese words for “car” and “parking lot” in class, I was excited to try texting him in Portuguese. With a little help from Google Translate, I was able to tell him “Meu carro está no estacionamento traseiro,” which means “My car is in the rear parking lot.”
When it was Scott’s turn to spell a word for me, he picked one from this text. Our teacher’s eyes began to widen around the fourth letter…t…r…a…s…and by the time we got to the end, she was clearly surprised.
“Where did you learn this word?” she asked. So we told her what had happened. Then we all had a good laugh when she explained that Scott was spelling out the Portuguese word for “ass.”
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