Lecture 144 – The Process and Significance of Growing | Abbreviated Version

P1             Unification does not mean, however, that the good of the dualistic either/or is realized. People who believe this misconception follow an erroneous path: they hope to attain one of the illusory opposites as the “salvation.”

P2             Growth is movement in time and space; therefore, growth on the dualistic plane automatically moves toward its opposite. From the moment you strive for any kind of happiness, you must fear it’s opposite. It explains why, as long as you perceive life in dualistic terms, you fear growth; for you fear that reaching a goal will bring on its destruction. You delude yourself by stemming against time, by “postponing” fulfillment and thus also the feared opposite.

The joy during the upward curve can never be full and carefree, without anxiety, for even before the peak is reached, the downside will be anticipated. You can shed these layers of pain, error, confusion, and limitation only when you no longer run away from yourself; when you are willing to look at yourself as you really are instead of as you want to be; when you accept yourself in the moment, when you do not struggle against your temporary state, even though you understand its error.

Expansion is a very simple process of questioning the verity of your limited ideas, the correctness of what you assume to be unalterably thus and so. This, in turn, can be done only when you honestly look at your most subtle moods and reactions and translate them into concise words. This is why your pathwork is of such immeasurable importance; for without recognizing the daily little dishonesties, self-deceptions, and erroneous assumptions, you cannot question them and loosen them to make room for a new reality.

Whenever a vague disturbance is honestly examined and verbalized, the concept on which the disturbance is based can be revealed and questioned. You put all your faith in a principle of opposition. You invent ifs and buts that really do not exist. You can begin only by destroying those little personal errors from which your daily disharmonies and disturbances arise.

P4             But growth cannot come by opposing the opposition; it comes only when the feared opposite can be envisaged and accepted if need be. Dualistic growth is a cyclic movement, with an upward curve, a peak, and a downward curve that perpetually recycles itself, always expressing two opposites. It is the state of cause and effect. Growth in the unitive state expands infinitely. When you are engaged in intense self-search, when you vigorously confront yourself and face truth upon truth, setting up new inner conditions, your psyche goes through profound upheavals.

The painful past state, as you know, was a result of false ideas. As these false ideas begin to crumble, the destruction may bring about more or less drastic outer changes. Being in truth with yourself, you no longer fear anything, nor do you cling and tightly insist that your good should be given to you. The outer improvements may or may not coincide with ideas and ideals you have held on the dualistic plane, but the way you experience these ideas and ideals is entirely different.

P5             Also, even when you have not reached a goal, you will not suffer as you did when you perceived reality dualistically. The growth into the unitive state definitely manifests in increasing trust in the self, in life. Now, destruction is always a painful process, whether or not it is desirable. While the edifices of error are being destroyed your life may be upset. You begin to sense that in the act of destroying error, truth reconciles construction with destruction and makes them one movement, instead of two warring opposites.

Hence you will no longer be discouraged, nor will you particularly suffer when you do not expect that your life should be different, for you will know that all is as it should, even must, be! You quietly know the truth of life, that all good is yours, that the universe contains all good, that there is an abundance free from conflict; in other words that your good never interferes with anyone else’s good. Your good does not bring any bad for anyone.

This happens without fear, without opposition, and without guilt. It happens because you feel deeply deserving. You will know that no one is deprived by your fulfillment, nor will you fear lack of fulfillment. Where the psyche is still deeply afflicted with doubt, fear, guilt, conflict, and error, this road cannot be taken. If it is nevertheless attempted under a misunderstanding, it becomes an artificial manipulative act that can lead only to self-deception.

(Infinite Way) When you are still in a state of untruth and distortion and therefore fear and distrust yourself and the world, you can transcend this state only by accepting what you fear, if need be; by not running away from yourself. It should be done with the open question whether what you fear is truly fearsome. In other words, you must question the concept that causes the fear of the alternative instead of opposing the alternative itself.

P7             It means merely that wherever you recognize a point of fear and hopelessness, you must relinquish the concept underlying this fear; you must relinquish your tight grip on certain attitudes that are obviously destructive but “protect” you from danger. The only way you can transcend this state is by temporarily accepting it, knowing that it is not final. This means that you not only accept the limitations of the outer situation, but your own limited state at this time.

When you give up your opposition to your present undesirable state, you can find the truth, and it will be possible to conciliate two apparent opposites. The only way to genuinely free oneself from fear is to taste and discover that it holds no terror, that it can be coped with, that one remains essentially intact. No theory can bring about this safe state. Only one inner act can do this: testing it, going into it, relinquishing the insistence that it needs to be feared and therefore avoided. When you embrace one alternative and say, “I must have this in order not to have that,” it keeps you from the transition into the fearless unitive state.

P8             Every one of you, my friends, is still filled with oppositions of one sort or another. Becoming aware of them, verbalizing them, is the first step.

—The Pathwork® Guide