P1 For no human being can truly be healthy and in balance within themselves and the forces around them unless a harmonious interaction exists between the ego and the universal intelligence within. Whenever the ego is in predominant control of the business of living and the life functions, it dries up, starves, withers—it literally dies off. For it cannot replenish itself at the source wherefrom all life springs.
That source is the divine universal self within each individual being. Humans are incarnated in matter because a separated part of the overall consciousness—which we call the ego—is disconnected from the total being, the universal self. This disconnectedness causes the ego state, thus material life, and therefore the cycle of life and death.
P2 There are various states and processes in material life which afford humans the possibility of replenishing themselves from the universal source. One of the most automatic, generally accessible of these states is sleep. Incidentally those states also vary as to the degree and intensity of the submergence. For instance, sleep merely affords rest from ego tensions and ego chores. Another state of replenishment is mutual involvement and love between the sexes.
Healthy, intense self-forgetfulness makes it possible for the ego to dip into the vast sea of universal power and beauty. This happens through the encompassing love for and acceptance of another “sphere” which is another being. The total accepting of, the transcending goodwill toward and consequent melting into another being is precisely the kind of attitude compatible with the universal forces.
Another state is deep meditation. When you have overcome the hurdles because your love of truth is greater, and thus surrender to the greater truth becomes possible, the ocean of wisdom can replenish your being. In each of the experiences I have described the ego transcends itself, lets go, gives itself up, and partakes of something greater within. The individual makes these experiences possible through the right attitude, readiness and active interests.
P3 Every activity, no matter how mundane, is permeated by the real self, which works freely. To the extent these experiences are hindered because of obstructions in the personality which the ego is unwilling to remove, to that extent life dries out and various degrees of death set in. The longing to contact the real self cannot ever be eradicated from the human heart, no matter how much conflict, confusion and fear may exist. Why do humans cling to those attitudes that hinder replenishment, dry out the psyche, cause death, and make life unpleasurable and bleak?
We have seen superficial false conclusions and shortsighted character attitudes of defeatism that make people so destructive that they would rather forfeit their life than “give in”—or so it appears to them. But as you can easily see, there comes a point on everyone’s path when this becomes the most important threshold to cross in the evolutionary process. This is why people yearn for the sensations drugs give, why a person suffering from insomnia will resort to sleeping pills rather than remove the block of the ego and transcend it.
This is also why the person whose ego is in predominant control—and therefore does not obtain sufficient relief and replenishment – is compelled to pursue self-destructive aims. Every act of self-destructiveness is a gesture of courting death, of walking toward it. Death is the great relief the personality seeks when all other avenues of relief from ego control fail, due to the personality’s stubborn refusal and false ideas. All selfdestruction is a slow form of suicide.
P4 The fundamental cause of the condition of predominant ego control is that there is a lawfulness that makes it indeed hazardous for the ego to let go of itself as long as the ego is attached to attitudes which are incompatible with the laws of the greater reality. An ego is healthy only when its attitudes are loving, generous, open, trusting, as well as realistic and self-assertive. Violation of these attitudes nurtures hate, separateness, distrustfulness, illusion, weakness, the tendency to damage the self and forego its best interests.
Such an unhealthy ego is striving for the precise opposite of the lawfulness of the divine within. It is not equipped to take care of itself and, consequently, life must be fraught with fear and insecurity. It is absolutely necessary for you to see yourself in your own destructiveness. The claim to be more than what one is must be absolutely abandoned before such healthy self-observation can exist. If the ego—also the unconscious part of the ego-self—is attached to a destructive attitude, it is incompatible with the universal forces.
Therefore when it lets go of itself, it is unsupported – it has no hold, no security, nothing to rely on and becomes totally disorganized and disintegrated. Therefore, in a way, the ego is almost “right” in not letting go. If the superior universal forces are not trusted, an ego that gives itself up has nothing else. No matter how limited the separated ego intelligence is in comparison with the greater self, it still possesses some reason and some grasp of a limited reality. Without the ego, the will cannot function either, if the greater divine will is negated or unconsciously defeated. This is why there is such a deep fear of letting go.
P5 Whenever you feel yourself unable to let go, you can now realize that deep destructive forces and attitudes are still rampant in you. Somewhere within you exists a will to be negative and destructive. This will is quite deliberate, once you become aware of it. There is nothing that forces you against your will. This only seems so as long as you deny the destructiveness because you do not wish to admit something so contrary to your self-image.
By destructiveness I mean the many, often very subtle ways in which the ego-self clings to separating attitudes—perhaps not wanting to expand and love others, or perhaps wanting to be vindictive, and punishing others with one’s own suffering. This activity of catching one’s little hidden dishonesties is the kind of constructiveness that is compatible with the divine substance. The moment you approach yourself with a sincere attitude that says: “I want to give my very, very best to the process of living, to every aspect of my life, and contribute the very best forces that are within me. Wherever I do not do this and am too blind to be aware of it, I wish the universal intelligence in me to guide me to this awareness. I wish to pay attention to it.”
With such a sincerely meant attitude something new is set in motion right at that moment! The more you cultivate such attitudes, the more the ego self becomes compatible with the real self. Therefore fear of letting go of the ego diminishes proportionately, since one then has something much larger and more reliable to trust in. Divine will works toward everyone’s fulfillment, bliss and happiness. This undivided intelligence and inexorable fulfillment is deeply safe and trustworthy.
P6 The violation of the law of love is that which ultimately ails everyone who is troubled. This is what must be investigated in everyone who suffers from unhappiness. “Where is the violation? Where do I keep myself separated? Where do I impair my integrity—in a direct or indirect way? Where do I delude myself about myself? Where do I not want to give of myself—in some way?”
P7 You will trust automatically when you find the justified reasons for distrusting yourself. The process is always an automatic reestablishment of balance. The best thing you could do in such a state is strengthen yourself daily by a very specific meditation. Say into yourself, “I want to give up all destructiveness. If I cannot do so yet, I herewith request the real self, the divine substance in me, to help me see where I am stuck and help me out of it. For this is what I want.”
P8 Before a person can develop their capacity to love, they must first have the willingness to do so. As long as that is lacking nothing can be done. Truth leads to love, and love without truth is impossible.
—The Pathwork® Guide