Lecture 32 – Decision Making | Abbreviated Version

P1             “All things work together for the good for those who love God.” Let us examine this statement of the Scriptures to find its deeper meaning. You have to get to know yourself so thoroughly that not only are your deeds, your words, and your thoughts in conformity with spiritual law, but also your emotions. There is no apparent tragedy, mishap, or misfortune that does not carry some good for one who follows this path and thus proves his or her love for God.

Yet so many of you do not know this. You are still living under the delusion that this is a world of coincidence and chance, or even a world of injustice. Though you may not think this is true, many of you feel so. For if it were not lacking (understanding), you could immediately find how each misfortune will touch off a particular fault or reveal ignorance of an emotional current running contrary to Divine Law.

P2             All human beings are starved for love; most seek it in the wrong way, namely to receive it first and give it perhaps afterwards, provided there is no risk involved. Furthermore, realize your deeper and hidden reasons for needing a more perfect love subject than reality produces. In all probability there is a measure of pride in you which you cover up with the type of love you are bestowing. In addition, there must be a lack of tolerance and compassion in you, a lack of being able to accept people as they are.

Now what is the right and mature attitude with which to decide? The answer is simply to know what you want and to know what the price is; to realize that you cannot fully have what you want on this earth sphere because there is always a price or a disadvantage to any alternative; and to be wholly willing to pay the price even before it becomes a certainty that the possible disadvantage may turn out to be real. One of these laws is that the disadvantageous side of each decision has to be faced and accepted. To make a mature decision means therefore to deliberate each alternative thoroughly; to face not only the avantageous sides of all alternatives in making your choice, but also and equally the disadvantageous.

P4             You will then have accepted another one of this earth life’s rules, that the uncertainty also has to be accepted. This includes the risk, the shortcomings of life, which offers you no riskproof plan. Conflicts are created not because of a possible wrong or less advantageous decision, but because you go into the decision blindly, not ready and willing to pay the price. That you have somehow not made a whole decision; you had somehow hoped to gain the advantage without accepting the disadvantage. On this earth sphere most people are greedy, not necessarily in the material sense, but emotionally. And when I say greedy, I mean you want to amass advantages without shouldering the responsibility of paying the price for them. That, needless to say, is a violation of one spiritual law.

(Question about ambivalence of overambitious and underambitious) The good quality that was once the underlying factor of a lack of ambition was benevolence, harmony, a certain type of tolerance, of humility. This meant that such a person does not have to stand out and shine and be better or higher than others, for it does not add to peace if one strives too hard to triumph over others.

P5             All faults are but distortions or extreme manifestations of a once good quality. The harm of lack of ambition is a very grave one. Ambition is often a price for what you desire. If you give in to your lack of ambition and then seem to be left wanting in one or more ways in life, you should realize you were not ready to pay a price that could perhaps only be paid by efforts that needed ambition. This sluggishness will prevent you from accomplishing your development which alone can bring you true happiness and security.

The disadvantage here is that your conflicts, hungers, needs, and insecurities will persist as long as you do not fight the temptation of taking the line of least resistance, which shows lack of ambition. If you emotionally and unconsciously hope to attain spiritual development and thus peace of mind without making serious efforts to overcome this basic hindrance, you are actually attempting spiritual theft in some way. It means that you want to gain the harmony that can only be reached by paying the price, namely hard spiritual work. You have not truly overcome this fault as long as you still have to force yourself to do the work.

P6             Overambitiousness—the original good quality is a strong willpower, a readiness to pay the price in effort, a desire to work, to serve in the higher realms for others. Use the positive aspects to cleanse this current of its exaggerated, distorted, and negative aspects which are: a certain type of selfishness; a power drive; self-righteousness; a certain greediness to have more, to be more.

P7             Question: what is the fault in feeling rejected and then resentment? In the first place your vanity is not being gratified. Because humility is lacking, the unconscious emotions claim that the personality must not be rejected; that rejection must not happen to it. In this way you want to be accepted by everyone or by the person you have chosen. You cannot bear that this desire of yours should not be granted. Recognize the pride in combination with the self-will. Treat it similarly.

If you can conquer both self-will and pride in this particular connection, your fear will be eliminated. I just mean to give up the desire current. Whenever there is resentment, it comes from a germ of hatred. There is inevitably a power drive in a person who resents rejection or possible rejection. The emotion says: “If you do not do what I want, which in this case is to like and accept me, I resent you for it.” The truth is that you are never rejected because of what you lack. Rejection is given only because of the rejecter’s own fear of life, of disappointment, of inferiority, of insecurity, and any number of symptoms of a sick soul that has not yet learned to apply spiritual law to the emotions.

P8             There is nothing as contagious, my friends, as emotions, thoughts, and attitudes, conscious or unconscious. This, too, is a universal law. It is often better to say too little than too much to a person not mature enough to understand the nature of the soul or one who lacks the willingness to do so. A safe way would be to first discuss the general subject, staying away from the personal, and to see how this is received.

—The Pathwork® Guide