Lecture 7 – Asking for Help and Helping Others | Abbreviated Version

P1             Each emotional reaction, thought, opinion, even the smallest personality trait, is a luminous ray which is invisible to you, but belongs very personally to each individual being. The fixed and yet eternally moving spiritual laws, which pertain to every possibility or modality of outer or inner reaction, also create such luminous threads. Wherever your personal rays agree with those of the spiritual laws, you fulfill your life and you are in harmony and bliss. Wherever personal rays deviate from spiritual laws, you find yourself in disharmony. If you wish to be happy, you have to go to the flawed roots within yourself.

The purpose of outside help is to make inner help possible, or, to put it another way, help must first come through outer sense perception to bring about autonomy of the inner perception or intuition. Whoever asks God, “Show me the truth” and then opens himself or herself to the truth will always receive an answer. But you so often do not dare to take this step. You cover up what is most important, push it aside, and busy yourself with worries and petty concerns. Not everybody has to become a trance medium like this medium through whom I speak. Yet everybody can make contact in some form with the spirit world. Be open to this. Do not say, I want it in such and such a way; just be open and free to letting yourself be guided. Then guidance will come at the time and in the manner best for you.

P3             Here one can sometimes make a mistake by not fulfilling a task with a weaker fellow human being, when one could do it. If the soul of someone who has already progressed quite far on this path is still unhappy, if there is something that makes it restless despite its already accomplished spiritual work, the cause could be the avoidance of an unpleasant contact with somebody one was meant to help, the avoidance of a soul with whom one could have fulfilled a task and learned from it.

You see, the rule is not always the same. People could be helped so very much if only they would open themselves again and again to receiving help. The wonderful forces and luminous rays of the spiritual world are ready to embrace you, but you often make it impossible because your own rays move in a different direction. These people lament, saying, “I am a sinner. I am so bad. I cannot overcome my sins. How terrible that I have this fault!” And whenever they encounter it, they throw themselves into the same unproductive current, thus increasing their guilt feelings. These guilt feelings have further consequences and a chain reaction is set in motion.

P4             It is absolutely necessary on this spiritual path that you learn to know yourself as you are and to accept your temporary reality. For when you look closer, you will realize that the terrible upset, the exaggerated guilt feelings about faults and shortcomings, are nothing but a form of pride and arrogance. You want to be better than you actually are. You want to be perfect without taking the trouble to become perfect. When you have to recognize that you are still imperfect, you feel devastated because your vanity is wounded. When you accept calmly who you are just now, you possess true humility which will set in motion the forces of transformation from deep within. By visualizing the positive you create a new thought form and direct your will toward it.

The perfection lies dormant within you deep down beneath the layers of the crust, hidden by your Lower Self, but it is only covered up—the perfection is already in you. You need only to remove the crust, and that is done by first recognizing it, by accepting the thought that there is a crust that takes such and such a form. Only when this is done can the layers of the crust be thinned out and so allow the breakthrough to the Higher Self in those places where your faults have so far made it impossible to establish contact with your inner perfection. When you have clearly crystallized your Lower Self into definite form and see it as a foreign body within the self, you can begin to build the positive form toward which you move in the process of self-realization. Let us take an example. A person is fighting his selfishness. This fault is in almost everybody. Some have it to a greater, others to a lesser degree, one in this form, the other in another, but everyone has at least some selfishness in him or her.

As at the end of every day the person examines his reactions, he will reach, step by step, the following stages: First, he will find it very hard to recognize where he has been selfish; next, as he asks more and more to see the truth and as he opens himself to it, he will recognize certain events which he used to bypass but which he now sees as examples of his selfish behavior. Such recognitions will make him very uncomfortable at first, they will upset him and give him a bad conscience. These feelings in turn will create a resistance against the recognitions.

P5             In this phase the battle is to overcome the resistance and to nevertheless accept the self as it is in the moment. To progress in this phase the person has to attack the resistance from several sides. He needs to pray for strength and willpower to see himself as he really is. He needs to meditate to arrive at a deep inner recognition of his lack of humility, of his pride and arrogance in being so terribly upset about his fault. He needs to meditate to see how very far from the truth he is when he cannot accept himself as he is. He also has to go deeper into himself and find what other characteristics his pride and arrogance have given rise to. Thus he will acquire a better understanding about his personality and unconscious emotional currents.

After a certain time these efforts of daily self-finding, retrospection, meditation, prayer, and resolutions will enable the person to react in a new way. He will succeed in applying what he knows in his daily silent hour and will react from this knowledge to whatever happens. As he once more goes into his stillness, he will recognize the progress he has made in handling his problem. Yet he will also have to notice that his feelings were still opposed to his controlled reactions, and thus there was an inner split behind his action. You may act right because your conscience says that you must follow what you have learnt about right and wrong, or because you believe this buys recognition and love from your surroundings. Yet when the action is not supported by a corresponding feeling, it becomes a lie. If you courageously fight on for your inner truth, you will be able to avoid the lie and identify the false emotional currents underlying your correct outward actions.

You will then, in your meditations, build good, healthy spiritual forms—for instance by visualizing yourself free from selfishness, or whatever other fault you may still have, and by feeling how much joy you can experience by letting others also have that which you hitherto had wished only for yourself. In time, this form will become so powerful that it will stand out just as clearly as the part which is still a residue of the Lower Self. You will always be aware of the discrepancy—but now without being upset by it. Slowly, slowly, old, false currents will transform themselves and be in line with outward actions and what you recognize as being right. This is the process.

P6             And when fear exists, it is the symptom of an imperfection, of a violation of spiritual law. Such fear can be a large, entangled skein, which actually exists as a spiritual form. On this path it can be disentangled, knot by knot, until the whole entanglement is sorted out and you can live without fear. Those who always look for a back door, who always take precautions and do not commit themselves to anything completely, be it God and the important spiritual issues or a minor mundane one, will find themselves caught up in an emotional current in which their fear will increase. As a result of their choices, they have no firm ground under their feet.

Another frequent factor in fear is lack of faith. The conditions for the grace of living faith were not fulfilled; therefore such people will have to rely on themselves entirely. They believe that everything depends on them; yet, paradoxically, they will neglect doing what truly depends on them and so will not effect changes where they could. Even when such people have some intellectual knowledge of the great truths, this kind of knowledge will be vague, unreal, doubtful, and will not support them.

The more such thoughts take possession of them, and the more they nourish them through their intellectual channels only, the more they remove themselves from any positive divine influence—and the greater their anxiety will grow. Fear may also come from clinging tightly to the ego with its self-pity, vanity, cowardice and pride—in short, everything that nurtures the ego, which wants to feel special. The people who surround themselves with a wall of separation will become lonely and detach themselves more and more from the people around them—and this has nothing to do with their social life, which might be very active. The separation then will increase the fear.

—The Pathwork® Guide