8 How and why we recreate childhood hurts
Our inner child can't let go of the past; it can't accept and can't forgive. So it sets up similar conditions, thinking this time it can win.
Our inner child can’t let go of the past; it can’t accept and can’t forgive. So it sets up similar conditions, thinking this time it can win.

Children have more than just a desire to be loved; they want to be loved exclusively, without any limits. In other words, every child’s desire for love is unrealistic…Since they seldom receive an adequate amount of warmth and mature love, children remain hungry for it throughout their whole life…Essentially everyone—even the most diligent spiritual seekers—overlooks just how strong the link is between the unfulfillment of our childhood longings and our present-day problems. This isn’t just a nice a theory…

They may not have been as perfect as we thought and hoped they’d be back then. But there’s no reason to now reject them because they had their own immaturities and inner conflicts…Once we’re free of this repetitive cycle, we’ll stop crying over the spilt milk of not getting love the way we wanted it…We need to release the pain we feel now, which is attaching to the hurt of then. Next we’ll see how we thought we had to choose this situation or admit defeat…

We can turn our painful feelings into healthy growing pains whenever we become ready to rid ourselves of the bitterness and tension we’ve been hiding…Forgetting and forgiving will become a real thing that we won’t even have to think about doing. They will naturally occur…

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Bones: A Building-Block Collection of 19 Fundamental Spiritual Teachings

Bones, Chapter 8: How and Why we Recreate Childhood Hurts

Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #73 Compulsion to Recreate and Overcome Childhood Hurts