Series: Blinded by Fear

It’s an error to think that becoming aware of our fears—of turning towards them and facing them in the light—will give them more power. Yet too often we turn a blind eye, hoping to avoid something unpleasant.

 

In truth, it’s not awareness of our fears that causes us problems, but our fearful attitude about even looking at them. By not facing our fears, we keep fighting the parts of ourselves that happen to be in fear, right now. We cramp up our whole being—including our bodies—bracing ourselves against feelings of fear.

 

In this collection of insights, fear is illuminated from many perspectives. Because it’s only by bringing our fears into the fresh air of our conscious awareness that they lose their terrible roar.

The Mother of All Fears: Fear of Self

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The Mother of All Fears: Fear of Self
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Only when our search for self-knowing has gained a little traction do we become aware that what we’re really most afraid of is ourselves. We can recognize this by the backpedaling we do when it comes to seeing our part in our problems; when we won’t face our terror of letting go of our defenses, which would allow us to…

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Fully Facing our Fear of Loving

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Fully Facing our Fear of Loving
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As we’ve probably heard by now, love is the greatest power there is. Every spiritual teaching or philosophy, along with every religious scholar and psychology professor, proclaims this truth: Love is the one and only power. If you’ve got it, you are mighty, strong and safe. Without it, you are separate, scared and poor. Sounds simple enough. Yet this knowledge…

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Finding Freedom and Peace by Overcoming Fear of the Unknown

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Finding Freedom and Peace by Overcoming Fear of the Unknown
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Life is a trap, of a kind, stuck as we are in this struggle to overcome the duality between life and death. From this fundamental predicament stem all our other problems, fears and tensions. It shows up in our fear of death, of course, as well as in our fear of aging and our fear of the unknown. What’s the…

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Finding True Abundance by Going Through Our Fear

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Finding True Abundance by Going Through Our Fear
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If we boil it down, there are essentially two philosophies about this thing we call life, and they are apparent contradictions. One imparts the perspective that if we are truly mature, we need to learn to accept life on life’s terms. Our best approach will be to accept what we can’t change. The other school of thought postulates we don’t…

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Giving up our Fear-Filled Struggle to Guard our Secrets

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Giving up our Fear-Filled Struggle to Guard our Secrets
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Every pain and frustration cascades from the pain of not meeting our full potential in giving to others and to life. Turning this around, all pleasure and satisfaction flows from giving freely, no ifs, ands or buts. Why then are we so stingy? Why do we refuse to give freely of ourselves? This stems from our fear of the parts…

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