There is only one key to happiness and abundance. It is this: we must change over from an old attitude of “me, me, me”— where we take, want, demand and won’t give—to a new attitude of loving, giving, devotion and sincerity.
This is easier said than done.
In fact, it is pointless to even hand someone this key if they aren’t even aware of their non-giving ways.
Yet this is the door we must step through.
How appearance values disconnect us
There are two value systems that govern us: being values and appearance values.
Let’s look at the ramifications of each.
Most of us are operating on the level of appearance value—most of the time. We must invest seriously in our personal work before we start functioning for the sake of what is—not for the sake of how things look to others.
If we’ve been paying attention, we may rightly suppose that this is not an either/or situation.
There are degrees.
In some areas of our lives, true values prevail. In others, we are all about appearances. As always, the transition from one state to the other is gradual.
Appearance values aim at creating an impression. In their most crass form, these values are about craving approval and selling out our truth to impress someone else.
We want to be on that pedestal.
We may be bold in going about this. Or we may be subtle and covert—there’s always a subtext in the background.
What will they think of me?
Just the thought of others’ negative reactions makes us anxious. This is as insidious as it is poisonous.
And it’s a big deal.
It disconnects us from our own insides—from our Higher Self and from the truth of the situation. Then how can we sincerely want to engage with others?
By tuning into ourselves, from this viewpoint, we start to see this isn’t so subtle after all.
And it’s having an effect in our lives.
Because regardless how good our efforts and goals may be, there is always an insincerity—we do everything for effect. We either do this directly or by way of the power and money we hope will prove our value.
Listen and learn more.
Finding Gold, Chapter 13: Being Values and Appearance Values
Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #232 Being Values versus Appearance Values – Self-Identification
