The greater reason anyone does this healing work is their longing to know their Real Self—to connect with their inner divinity. To create this inner connection, they will need to navigate the two stages of this spiritual path, which overlap.
In the first stage, we work to clear away inner obstacles in our unconscious. These are the source of our conflicts in life. Until we have made some progress in doing this part of our work, we can’t access our divine core—our inner light. For there’s still too much darkness.
The second stage of the work is about letting go of our ego and learning to live from our divine center. When we do this, we gradually shift from living in the limited level of duality—which is the domain of the ego—to the deeper, more unifying level of true reality.
This is how we create peace.
We must uncover and heal what destroys it, which is inside us.
If, on the other hand, the ego lets go too soon, before some progress is made in the first stage, we end up with addictions. We become even more entangled in the darkness.
While both stages are necessary, we enter the most important phase—the second stage—only after making progress in the first. But we don’t complete all of stage one and then start on stage two.
We can’t. Because the work of healing the Lower Self, which is what blocks our light, is always an act of the Higher Self.
It is simply beyond the scope of the ego to make healing happen. What the ego can do, however—and must do—is become strong and healthy enough to facilitate the healing process.
There is one simple formula for the process. Our mission is to find the stuck place—and then pray.
Many methods, one formula
The work of healing is like wading into unknown waters. We want to go slow and feel our way. Typically, the work starts with a story about a disharmony in life. This is how the Worker’s inner conflict is currently out-picturing itself in their world.
This is what the Worker has been avoiding, and where we must now turn our attention. In our sessions, we will be guiding the Worker to find the frozen knot of feelings and mistaken beliefs hidden underneath their story.
There is not a single method for doing this work of helping. There are many creative ways to guide the Worker. Many we learn through training, and some will rise from our own creative guidance.
That said, there is one simple formula for the process.
Our mission is to find the stuck place—and then pray.
When the Worker connects with their inner resistance, whether silently or out loud, they need to ask for help from their Higher Self. They must ask for the courage to explore their inner darkness and the strength to feel what they find.
Prayer opens the Worker to greater resources than the ego possesses. It also starts building a bridge to the Real Self.
Without that bridge, we can’t get back home to God.
Follow the work
The stance of the Helper is to hold a healed presence so the wounded fragments of the Worker can come forward for healing. Along the way, the Worker may need to lean on the strength of the Helper. For example, learning to trust our Helper is a step that helps us learn to trust ourselves.
But we do the Worker a disservice if we don’t help them find their own inner light.
Throughout the session, the Helper needs to keep opening their field of vision to invite in guidance and God. We do this by silently praying throughout the session, asking to be led and shown.
Of course, we Helpers are humans. So sometimes we don’t read the tealeaves quite right. The Worker is also full of resistance, so sometimes we need to change our tack.
Praying and following guidance can feel like following the wind. This requires some finesse.
What matters most is that we follow as much as we lead. We may have a good understanding of the map, based on the roads we have already travelled. But in each moment, we go wherever the Work takes us.
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