Our child fragments are one-sided, unreasonable, demanding, and lacking in understanding. This, in a nutshell, is why we fear loving.
If love is the greatest power there is, why do we resist it? In this episode, we explore the hidden reasons we fear love—and how those fears quietly shape our relationships.
At the root of this fear is an immature part within us—the inner child—that holds unrealistic expectations about love. It wants to be fully loved, fully accepted, and never disappointed. At the same time, it resists giving up control. This creates a deep inner conflict: we long for love, yet fear the vulnerability and surrender it requires.
We’ll unpack how these unconscious demands distort our understanding of love, often turning it into either control or submission—neither of which is real love. True love, instead, requires maturity. It allows others to be who they are, without needing to possess or control them.
This episode also explores how developing self-awareness, humility, and patience helps us move from illusion to reality. As we begin to see ourselves clearly—and let go of our inner “forcing”—we build trust in ourselves and others.
The result? Love becomes less threatening and more freeing. Because real love doesn’t take away our freedom—it depends on it.
Jill Loree is the founder of Phoenesse and a longtime student of the Pathwork teachings. She has studied the Pathwork Guide’s material since 1997 and completed four years of training to become a certified Pathwork Helper.
When she first encountered the Pathwork teachings, she described the experience as “walking through the doorway of an AA fourth step and finding the whole library.”
Through Phoenesse, Jill writes and teaches about personal transformation using the spiritual psychology found in the Pathwork lectures.
Her books present these teachings in clear, accessible language to help readers apply them in everyday life. Her work focuses on helping people move from the struggles of duality toward the peace of inner unity.
Raised in northern Wisconsin, Jill began her professional career in technical sales and marketing before discovering that her true calling lay in spiritual teaching and writing.
She lives in New York with her husband, Scott Wisler, who now works with her in sharing these teachings around the world.
