When we ask the question “what is the truth?”, the part of us asking this question is no longer caught in the struggle. This shifts our relationship to the part that is stuck. Instead of identifying with it, we identify it.
Although that doesn’t sound like much, we have to start somewhere, and this is it—this is the way out.
The truth may take some time to surface. It might come up in the session. Or it may arise while the Worker is brushing their teeth.
It’s not the job of the Helper to feed the Worker new truths. Rather, we guide the opening and revealing process. An excellent place for the Worker to land is “I don’t know.”
We can come through the backdoor of knowing by being sure of one thing: “I don’t know.”
I don’t know
We can come through the backdoor of knowing by being sure of one thing: “I don’t know.” This gives the ego mind a place to rest.
From where we sit, as the Helper, we may be receiving information about what is going on for the Worker. We can use this to guide the exploration. But we don’t feed insight to the Worker.
Even if what we offer is true, if it doesn’t arise from within the Worker—when they are ready for it—it will be a bitter pill to swallow. They will likely spit it back out.
The Guide teaches that there is no harm in arriving at a truth too late. But trying to get there too early can set the work back.
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