Our inner child can’t let go of the past; it can’t accept and can’t forgive. So it sets up similar conditions, thinking this time it can win.
without any limits. In other words, every child’s desire for love is unrealistic… Since they seldom receive an adequate amount of warmth and mature love, children remain hungry for it throughout their whole life… Essentially everyone—even the most diligent spiritual seekers—overlooks just how strong the link is between the unfulfillment of our childhood longings and our present-day problems. This isn’t just a nice a theory…
They may not have been as perfect as we thought and hoped they’d be back then, but there’s no reason to now reject them because they had their own immaturities and inner conflicts… Once we’re free of this repetitive cycle, we can stop being upset about not getting love the way we wanted it… By releasing the pain we feel now, which is inextricably bound to the hurt of then, we’ll see how we thought we had to choose this situation or admit defeat…
We can turn our painful feelings into healthy growing pains whenever we become ready to rid ourselves of the bitterness and tension we’ve been hiding… Forgetting and forgiving will become a genuine thing that we won’t even have to think about doing. They will naturally occur.
Jill Loree is the founder of Phoenesse and a longtime student of the Pathwork teachings. She has studied the Pathwork Guide’s material since 1997 and completed four years of training to become a certified Pathwork Helper.
When she first encountered the Pathwork teachings, she described the experience as “walking through the doorway of an AA fourth step and finding the whole library.”
Through Phoenesse, Jill writes and teaches about personal transformation using the spiritual psychology found in the Pathwork lectures.
Her books present these teachings in clear, accessible language to help readers apply them in everyday life. Her work focuses on helping people move from the struggles of duality toward the peace of inner unity.
Raised in northern Wisconsin, Jill began her professional career in technical sales and marketing before discovering that her true calling lay in spiritual teaching and writing.
She lives in New York with her husband, Scott Wisler, who now works with her in sharing these teachings around the world.
