Why is it so hard to let go of our negativity?
It may help to understand that our negativity is a defense. It arises out of duality, which is the tragic misunderstanding that splits all of life into either/or. Either it’s me, or it’s you. From here, we believe it’s a question of our own happiness versus the happiness of someone else. Because in duality, supposedly only one side can win.
Secretly, we feel that if we give anything to others, we will be at some kind of disadvantage. So, we grab for what we want, on the one hand, and hold ourselves back, on the other. This, we think, will increase our advantage.
What it really creates is a terrible conflict.
As such, if we want to get out from under all this negativity, we must find another approach.
Adapted from Pathwork lecture #165: Evolutionary Phases in the Relationship Between the Realms of Feelings, Reason, and Will; Pathwork Lecture #166: Perceiving, Reacting, Expressing; Pathwork Lecture #167: Frozen Life Center Becomes Alive
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