Think of transparency as the new black; it’s a habit that looks good on everyone.
We all have needs: real, legitimate, have-a-right-to-have-them needs. One of these needs is for closeness. Another need is to have privacy. It’s not hard to imagine that these two can be tricky to weave together…
So where does secrecy come in? Take apart any secrets and we’ll find the wish to hide something that we think will be unpalatable to someone… We may rationalize our secrets by saying, “If I reveal myself, I won’t be understood,” or “People will criticize me unfairly”… But when we’re standing in truth—or attempting to get to the bottom of it—we’ll make an effort to help others understand…
What’s happening when we keep secrets is that we fear we’re not in truth. Better yet, we often know we’re not but we have no intention of changing. So then we’re really being dishonest… We also sort of like the way it keeps things lopsided. We don’t have to work at finding equitable, honest solutions. That’s how secrets destroy relationships. And that’s why secretive people are never emotionally fulfilled…
Jill Loree is the founder of Phoenesse and a longtime student of the Pathwork teachings. She has studied the Pathwork Guide’s material since 1997 and completed four years of training to become a certified Pathwork Helper.
When she first encountered the Pathwork teachings, she described the experience as “walking through the doorway of an AA fourth step and finding the whole library.”
Through Phoenesse, Jill writes and teaches about personal transformation using the spiritual psychology found in the Pathwork lectures.
Her books present these teachings in clear, accessible language to help readers apply them in everyday life. Her work focuses on helping people move from the struggles of duality toward the peace of inner unity.
Raised in northern Wisconsin, Jill began her professional career in technical sales and marketing before discovering that her true calling lay in spiritual teaching and writing.
She lives in New York with her husband, Scott Wisler, who now works with her in sharing these teachings around the world.
